Bad Grief

Friday night we hosted a prayer meeting at our home and one of the prayers was for all the families who had lost loved ones in the past two years.  Children, parents, siblings.  Young and Old.  Some were unexpected and others after long illnesses.  Death is common to everyone.  It was a pretty big list.

One sweet widow in our congregation has an anniversary on Christmas Day.  She said she couldn’t come to our singing Sunday evening because it was too hard.

Last Wednesday would have been the birthday for our oldest member who died in the summer.

A great brother and song leader lost a brother and cousin in the same car accident and a good friend who was young and died unexpectedly last summer.  He was out of town this weekend for the funeral of a close family friend.

My parents both died the week after Christmas, ten years apart but on the same date.  It’s especially difficult for my grandfather during the holidays.

Of course, the Dobbs family and Nystrom family (a husband and father was struck by a car while riding his bicycle to work) are on my mind and in my prayers often.

Hang in there.  Let’s pray for each other.  Many are experiencing the holidays without a loved one for the first time, but it can be painful for decades.

This website has great encouragement and advice:  Difficult Season

Luke 7:11-17

“…Jesus went to a town called Nain, and his disciples and a large crowd went along with him. As he approached the town gate, a dead person was being carried out—the only son of his mother, and she was a widow. And a large crowd from the town was with her. When the Lord saw her, his heart went out to her and he said, “Don’t cry.”

Then he went up and touched the coffin, and those carrying it stood still. He said, “Young man, I say to you, get up!” The dead man sat up and began to talk, and Jesus gave him back to his mother.

They were all filled with awe and praised God. “A great prophet has appeared among us,” they said. “God has come to help his people.” This news about Jesus spread throughout Judea and the surrounding country.”

What I love about this story is that a great miracle happened and it wasn’t the result of someone begging or approaching Jesus. He approached them. He was moved with compassion for the widow and her situation. He acted.

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6 thoughts on “Bad Grief

  1. wjcsydney

    My mother in law died on Saturday. It was a difficult relationship with C, very strained the last year and a bit with virtually no contact but that doesn’t make the grieving easier. My mom took ill just before Christmas in 2001 and died at the end of January 2002. N and I flew to SA from Thailand where we had been vacationing on Christmas day, while C flew back to Sydney. Thanks for letting me share.

  2. Frank Peoples Sr.

    Prayers for The Peoples Family as well. It has been three years since we have seen or held our son since his adoption, which was big wrong by the system, but have learned to lean more on Jesus and something good will come out of this.

    The story of how Moses was raised by Pharoh’s daughter and later grew up to free his family gives me lots of comfort.

    It is heart-breaking to see people with their children doing family things together and special moments, which often reminds us of our “Frankie”, but I pray each day for God to help me with this and be strong for my wife who is really taking it worse.

    Yes, it feels like a death in the family, but I see people have gone through worse than we have gone through, and pray they will find peace wherever they can.

  3. J D

    Thanks for your prayers Brian … and you are right. There are so many people hurting in our world. One of our widow ladies is hurting during Christmas over the loss of her daughter … 43 years ago … she still cries for her. Difficult days lie ahead for many of us. I did not know about your parents … I’m sorry you have lost them. You are a good man.

  4. Brian

    thanks for sharing, wendy, will be praying for C.

    Frank, we prayed for you guys friday night as well. your situation and other things like divorce definitely fall under the category of grief. hang in there.

    love ya, jd,

    when I was in school, a classmate lost a son that was less than a week old. the preacher who did the funeral, mentioning calling another lady who had lost a child for advice for the funeral. then he revealed it was his mother, and the loss was 40 years ago as well. very powerful and moving.

  5. My heart goes out to people who are reminded of their losses on special days like Christmas or birthdays. I try to offer comfort to my friends on the birthdays of loved ones they’re missing.

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