I have recently discovered and been reading two blogs by the same family who have been dealing with a terrible tragedy.
They discovered after decades that a beloved Preacher Husband/Father was a practicing pedophile all along.
They share lots of good information about detecting pedophiles, boundaries that need to be set up, and how the church can/should respond, especially about protecting our children.
Here is a quote from Jimmy Hinton’s blog
“Repentance needs to be proved. A repentant pedophile will perform deeds by demanding that he not be near children again. A repentant pedophile doesn’t ask for pictures (no matter how innocent they seem) of any children. A repentant pedophile will renounce any internet use for the rest of his life, since pornography and fantasy drive them to their core. A repentant pedophile will not happily accept a role as minister where people now look to him as a spiritual leader of old and, yes even very young, people. A repentant pedophile will make sure that his presence is not traumatizing to survivors of child sex abuse in the congregation. And if it is, he will gladly find another church and not put up a fight. A repentant pedophile will not ask church members if he can babysit their kids. Please beware of these things and let’s work together to make our churches safe.”
Clara Hinton was the wife of a pedophile for 40 years and only looking back, do all the red-flags appear obvious. She is courageously telling her story in attempts to help and save others. It’s difficult to read. It will make you cry and make you sick. But the family is on a crusade (in a good sense) to educate people and especially churches about the dangers that exist. They will sound alarmist to some, especially because of all that they have been through, but if you love your children, you should listen. If you are a preacher, elder, or youth minister, you should listen.